I’m more like Seinfeld’s Elaine with a moral bent.
So when fellow parents request parenting advice from me I feel like I must offer a disclaimer… a little “fine print” that lets them know that I’m on the journey as well… and I don’t have all the answers.
But I do have some suggestions when it comes to teaching kids how to have a right heart.
So many times as parents, we can teach kids the response we expect. However it’s obvious when they’re just giving us the response we expect yet their heart is not in the right place. How do we address the heart issue? This isn’t something you can beat out of them… (err, I mean) This isn’t something you can reach inside and change. 🙂
But there are a few things you can do that address the issue and teach your child over time how to do their own ‘heart check’.**these are in no particular order**
- Right vs Wrong– This is one of the best books I’ve read about the reasons I want to teach my kids the character of God. Why? B/c relating back to the character of God draws our focus back to the image in which we were created. Character gets to the heart of the issue. I want my kids (and myself) to learn to act in ways consistent with God’s character b/c that’s who He created me to be.
- Gods Word – Pray His Word over your child. This is different from praying with your child. Pray scripture over your child. Why? B/c Isaiah 55:11 tells us that God’s Word does exactly what He purposes for it to do. And Hebrews 4:12 tells me that His Word “…is sharper than a double-edge sword… that discerns the thoughts and intents of the heart.” So, if it’s a heart issue then it’s really not our job to change it. That’s God’s domain. Our role is to actively speak His Word into their lives so that His Word can dissect, discern and develop the heart of our kids.
There you have it… my “not-so SuperNanny… nowhere-near Clair Huxtable… yet so-much-better-than Elaine” parenting advice on how to address the heart issue of your child. Enjoy