My kids and I made a Sonic run the other day. If you live anywhere near Oklahoma, you know the lure of Sonic Cherry Limeades. Make it “happy hour” and it’s hard to resist. 🙂
Driving back, my two oldest are talking about where they’ll live in college and who they’ll live with. Keegan (10) is patiently explaining to Josie (7) that she’ll live in a dorm room at college and have a roommate. Perplexed, Josie confirms, “Mom, can my roommate be a girl and not a boy?”
The conversation that ensued was comical, at best. I listened as Keegan tried to explain that boys can’t live with girls and girls can’t live with boys b/c that might lead to “making out and other inappropriate things”. I sat at the wheel trying not to laugh out loud.
At this point I stepped in to direct the conversation a little. You see, I want my kids to grow up with a healthy respect for sex. Though I’m a little spooked that my 10 year old understands that there is more to do than just ‘making out’… I’m not going to freak out over it. I’m not going to teach him to fear it. I’m going to teach him to cherish it.
Cherish – (verb) to hold or treat as dear; to care for tenderly
For the next 5 minutes I talked to them about kissing, hugging and other things that married people do to share their love.
But these are only for when you’re married. Why? Because it’s a special gift only for that person. A lot like a Christmas gift. What happens when we open our Christmas gift a week before Christmas? It spoils the surprise! There are special things that are only for your husband or wife. Special gifts that are spoiled if you open them too early… like before marriage. It’s our job to protect and cherish this gift until God brings the right person to receive that gift.
My hope is to set the stage for open dialogue with my kids about appropriate boundaries, healthy perspectives and the gift of sex.
Likely the first of many ‘facts of life’ conversations over a Cherry Limeade. 🙂
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