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I Would Never…

Posted by on Sep 2, 2010 in Leadership, Ministry

I would never…

I’m not one to use that phrase.  Maybe there was a time in my life when I would but not in the past few decades.  I think because I understand my own fallibility.  I understand that I’m only a few bad choices away from losing everything I have… a great marriage, great job, great ministry.

I was in a conversation recently about accountability.  I shared that one of the most valuable things I gained from my season at LifeChurch.tv was the constant emphasis on genuine accountability.  Someone willing to ask you the hard questions expecting you to respond and not skirt.  Someone willing to go to battle spiritually and fight on your behalf in prayer.

Let’s be real.  It is no longer unusual to hear about a ministry leader fallen from grace.  Some of it hits the news.  Some of it doesn’t.  And it would be easy to look at those situations and say, “I would never do that.”  Really?  I wonder how many of those that have fallen said the same thing at one point in time.

I’ve packed on a solid 5 pounds since my move to Knoxville, TN.  It didn’t happen because I chose to eat too much one night.  I happened because of a series of choices made consistently that lead to weight gain.  Not exercising, compromising on the types of food I’m eating, eating when I’m not hungry, etc, etc.  Poor choices.

I would argue that each circumstance that we see where someone has made a ministry-fatal mistake can be attributed not to a single poor choice, but a series of poor choices over time.  And when you don’t have someone that you can be gut-level transparent with, then you put yourself in a risky place.  As Craig Groeschel puts it, “You’re a sitting duck.”

I think it’s a dangerous thing to say, “I would never…”.  Instead I say, “God, show me where I’m vulnerable.”   Then I have to be willing to put the right things in place to address the vulnerability.  We’re human.  We’re broken.  And we’re in desperate need of a Savior to bring light and healing to all areas of our lives.

Carey Nieuwhof writes a great post on the 4 different paths a leader can take… one of which is moral failure.  Take a look and see what he has to say.

Don’t allow the enemy opportunity.  Make sure you have the anchors in place so that your story is one of soaring and not falling.

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Vanderbloemen Search Group

Posted by on Mar 16, 2010 in Leadership, Ministry

Some friends of mine recently made a shift you’d want to know about.  My friend, William, recently launched his own executive search firm called Vanderbloemen Search Group.  His church leadership search team consists of Tony Morgan, Carlos Whitaker & Zach King.  Each bringing a level of unparalleled expertise to a ministry leadership search.

Now, maybe you can help me out with this one.  I had the opportunity to get to know William after my transition from LifeChurch.tv(He was a source of great encouragement & guidance during that season.) I also worked with Zach King at LifeChurch.tv for a few years.  So really I could say that since William and Zach are friends of mine… Carlos, Tony & I are pretty tight, as well.  Right?  Friends by proxy?

Personally, I like my logic.  But some may not agree.  Like Carlos and Tony.  But a girl can dream.

Either way around, many of us know kidmin & stumin leaders actively seeking their next ministry assignment.  Let them know about the Vanderbloemen Search Group.  You can find them on Facebook here, follow them on Twitter here & check out the website here.

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Brace Yourself, Knoxville!

Posted by on Jan 14, 2010 in My Life

“So, are you telling me you wouldn’t be interested in moving to Knoxville, Tennessee?”

It was an off-hand question during a phone conversation with Josh Whitehead of FaithPromise Church.  And it was my last day in the office of LifeChurch.tv.  Shortly after that phone call I packed up my desk and left an amazing ministry behind.

Josh didn’t call to recruit me away from LifeChurch.tv.  He was actually joking.  He wasn’t aware of my decision to leave LC.  He simply wanted some feedback and potential candidates for a Children’s Ministry Director at his church.  He thought I might have some leads.

When Josh learned of my departure he put me in touch with his Family Ministries Pastor, Chuck Carringer.  I liked him from the start.   From the first conversation I knew I could grow under his leadership and direction.  This guy was the real deal.

In the coming weeks the conversations continued.  In mid December Kyle and I packed our bags and spent a few days in Knoxville.  Hanging out with Pastor Chris Stephens, Chuck Carringer & Josh Whitehead, it was like spending time with family.  Immediate connection.

When Chuck invited us to be a part of the FaithPromise family I confess that it was a difficult decision.  It had nothing to do with Chuck, Pastor Chris, or Josh.  But when you’re making the decision to move your family… the decision is a tough one.

Kyle and I have been married for 15 years.

And all of those 15 years were spent living somewhere in the Oklahoma City metro area.  Grandparents, aunts and uncles are 3 hours away at the most.  Moving to Tennessee puts 10 hours of driving between us.

But over a period of weeks God clarified and confirmed that FaithPromise Church was our new home.  Our next step in ministry.  So we’re loading up the kids and moving to the Volunteer State.

Although I’m sad to leave behind my family & my closest friends, I’m excited to see what lies ahead.

And I can’t wait to get there.

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things i’ve learned about me

Posted by on Dec 14, 2009 in Leadership

header-focused-living-onlineOver the past few weeks I’ve been coached by Jerry Hurley, Team Development Leader at LifeChurch.tv.  Jerry was the first to interview me 10 years ago for a position with LC.  I loved him then… I love him even more now.

Jerry is outstanding at developing leaders.  He’s insightful, thoughtful and encouraging.  I’ve always valued Jerry’s thoughts and opinions on things.  So to be coached by him during this season in my life is more than I could hope for.

Two weeks ago he recommended an exercise process called Focused Living: Online at LeaderBreakthru.com.  I’m only half-way through the process and already I would highly recommend to anyone seeking to learn more about how God works in their life.  As I’ve reflected over the past 3 decades of my life, I can see that my experiences have taught me to value:

  • Authenticity
  • Truth
  • Vision
  • Family
  • Learning

I have values that I’ve always espoused to.  Like integrity, generosity, strong work ethic, relationships and stewardship.  These are values Kyle and I defined as those that will shape our family.  And yet through the Focused Living: Online process I’ve learned that 5 listed above are the values truly reflected in the patterns of my life.  These are who I am.

There’s something liberating about that.  Check out the site and see what you learn about yourself.  The $20 is money well spent.

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iFollow Jesus

Posted by on Nov 2, 2009 in Ministry

…at least I try.  I don’t do it perfectly, but I serve a grace-filled God who is excessively patient with me.

When was the last time you read the story of the Israelites and their journey to the Promised Land?  It’s a story I’m consistently intrigued by.  Probably because for many years I would scoff at those ridiculous Israelites and wonder why they were so stubborn.  Then my years increased, my heart softened and I saw more clearly that the reflection in the mirror was equally as stubborn.

I’ve always boasted that I would follow wherever God leads.  But that’s easier said than done, isn’t it?  The older I get the more I realize that I place conditions on my ‘follow’.  I commit to obey God but only within acceptable parameters.  I agree to follow God but only within predetermined boundaries.

In Joshua 2 & 3 we read about the Israelites and their final step before crossing into the land of Canaan… the land flowing with milk and honey… God’s gift to His people… the Promised Land.  If you read through the story you’ll see that the 2 things the Israelites were told to do were:

  • Prepare
  • Follow the Ark of the Covenant

In all simplicity they were initially told to prepare… do whatever is necessary, stand guard and posture yourself to move.  Then they were told to follow the Ark… where God’s Spirit rested… in other words, follow the Holy Spirit.

If the Israelites did not prepare then they wouldn’t be ready to follow.  If they did not follow then God would have no need to part the waters.

Several months ago I sensed that God was doing something different inside me.  He was asking me to prepare.  Posturing myself to move meant really empowering my team (staff & volunteers) to lead in ways I hadn’t challenged them in the past.  As I waited for God to ‘part the waters’ and show me my next step I got frustrated with His perceived silence.  Praying for clarity & direction, I continued to wrestle with God asking Him for that ‘next step’.

Then two weeks ago it occurred to me.  My own words rang in my head, “Follow the Holy Spirit”.  Though I had prepared to move, I was holding back waiting for God to show me what lie on the other side of the raging Jordan river.  And yet, that’s not for me to see… at least not yet.  First, I have to follow.

I had no idea what lie ahead but I knew clearly that I was still standing on the threshold of a door God was asking me to shut.  So, I stepped off the threshold and shut the door.

I resigned from LifeChurch.tv as the OKC Campus LifeKIDS Pastor.

It’s an odd, surreal thing.  I never imagined that God’s next step for me would be outside the boundaries of LifeChurch.tv.  That’s when I understood that I was willing to follow Him anywhere… as long as it existed within the LC.tv organization.  That was a sobering reality.

So, I shut the door, cleaned out my desk, packed up my coffee mug and said goodbye to an organization that has made tremendous impact on me as a leader, as a pastor and (ultimately) as a child of Christ.  I’m beyond grateful for all I’ve gained in my tenure at LC.tv.  I’m humbled by the care they show for me and my family.  And I’m excited for the incredible work God will continue to do in my absence.

Thank you Craig, Jerry, Sam, Kevin, Sprad, Werner, McLaren, GT, Ally & Cathi.  Leaders who saw more in me than I saw in myself.

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