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Posts Tagged "scripture"

SuperNanny? not so much

Posted by on May 21, 2015 in My Life

I’m no Clair Huxtable either.

I’m more like Seinfeld’s Elaine with a moral bent.

So when fellow parents request parenting advice from me I feel like I must offer a disclaimer… a little “fine print” that lets them know that I’m on the journey as well… and I don’t have all the answers.

But I do have some suggestions when it comes to teaching kids how to have a right heart.

So many times as parents, we can teach kids the response we expect.  However it’s obvious when they’re just giving us the response we expect yet their heart is not in the right place.  How do we address the heart issue?  This isn’t something you can beat out of them(err, I mean) This isn’t something you can reach inside and change.  🙂

But there are a few things you can do that address the issue and teach your child over time how to do their own ‘heart check’.

**these are in no particular order**
  1. Right vs Wrong This is one of the best books I’ve read about the reasons I want to teach my kids the character of God.  Why?  B/c relating back to the character of God draws our focus back to the image in which we were created.  Character gets to the heart of the issue.  I want my kids (and myself) to learn to act in ways consistent with God’s character b/c that’s who He created me to be.
  2. Gods Word – Pray His Word over your child.  This is different from praying with your child.  Pray scripture over your child.  Why?  B/c Isaiah 55:11 tells us that God’s Word does exactly what He purposes for it to do.  And Hebrews 4:12 tells me that His Word “…is sharper than a double-edge sword… that discerns the thoughts and intents of the heart.” So, if it’s a heart issue then it’s really not our job to change it.  That’s God’s domain.  Our role is to actively speak His Word into their lives so that His Word can dissect, discern and develop the heart of our kids.

There you have it… my “not-so SuperNanny… nowhere-near Clair Huxtable… yet so-much-better-than Elaine” parenting advice on how to address the heart issue of your child.  Enjoy

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Breaking Bread

Posted by on May 20, 2015 in Uncategorized

This year Kyle and I get to celebrate communion with our two oldest kids.   It’s an exciting event.  We’ll break bread, share wine (aka grape juice), read from scripture and enjoy a special moment as Christ-followers on Good Friday.  What a cool moment this will be.

Things I’m remembering today…

  • I (self) was crucified with Christ on the cross
  • I (self) no longer live, but Christ lives through me
  • When God sees me, He sees Christ… not my mistakes
  • The gratefulness and humility that comes when I acknowledge the sacrifice Christ made for me
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Building Faith Skills in Kids (4 of 5)

Posted by on May 20, 2015 in Orange

Talking about the 5 skills to establish faith in our kids.  Catch the first 4 here.

Faith Skill #4: Articulate Faith

Create a safe place to discuss and wrestle with what kids believe.  This is key for our kids to make their faith their own.

Not just as parents, but as individuals, we can fear doubt.  We are scared of questions.  Sometimes it freaks us out when people question their faith.  We think we might lose them forever.  They might go off the deep end.

“Just have more faith.  Have more faith!”

I’m not discounting faith.  It’s a vital component to your relationship with Jesus.  But in order to make something your own, sometimes you’ve got to wrestle it down yourself.   I appreciate a good sermon, but I value scripture more when I labor through, question and digest it myself.

Give people in your home the space and the safety to question.  Have less faith in your explanations of God… and have more faith in the work God is doing in the midst of the wrestle.

Some of the best parenting advise I’d ever heard came from a 23 year old single man.  He said…

Talk less.  Pray more.

Do questions make you uncomfortable?  Do you allow people to question and wrestle with their faith?

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Talent Uninvested

Posted by on Dec 16, 2014 in My Life

coinsThe story of the talents in Matthew 20 rings in my mind today.

The servant who received the five bags of silver began to invest the money and earned five more. The servant with two bags of silver also went to work and earned two more. But the servant who received the one bag of silver dug a hole in the ground and hid the master’s money.

Many teachers of this scripture equate talents with money, time, gifts, abilities, etc.  Basically, taking what God provides and using it rather than squandering it.  So, my question is… if you have a handful of talents and find that you’re only using a few… how long will you allow the others to go unused?

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Parenting Litmus Test

Posted by on May 18, 2011 in Ministry, My Life

A friend of mine sent me this question in a text last night…

…if u were asked “what does God define as success in parenting” backed by scripture, what would u say?”

Here was my response…

“My immediate fall back is Proverbs 22:6.  As parents our role is to watch, learn and recognize the intricate design of our kids.  To learn to see them through the eyes of their Creator.  To teach their child how to pursue the heart of their Creator and exercise the gifts He’s put inside of them for the very purpose of serving Him. It’s a 50 year litmus test.”

How would you answer that question?

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